A Birthday Reflection
I’ve discovered that the more I want certain things things, the less important they are to me.
Every year on my birthday I take some time to reflect on the previous year and where I am in my life. I used to look backward and try to measure how far I’ve come.
I no longer do that.
While I remain aware of events I’ve experienced, I now focus more on what is happening in the moment. I take time to get a feel for how well I’m aligned with what I want rather than thinking about what has happened.
There are a lot of things I want – mostly experiences, opportunities to travel and more financial abundance – but I’ve discovered that the more I want those things, the less important they are to me. I know that sounds strange, but it’s true. The more aligned I am with my joyful center the fewer attachments I have. Perhaps the most interesting discovery I’ve made is that as I allow myself to just “be,” I find that the process of taking steps toward the things I want is more enjoyable and less stressful.
I’ve developed a genuine attitude of, “I think it would be fun if ___.” I still have my moments when I stress out or panic when I have a looming deadline and I don’t have all the pieces in place to do something to which I’ve committed, but the overall process of “getting there” has become almost as fun as getting what I want.
I’ve heard teachers say many times that the journey is what makes everything worthwhile, not the actual achievement of a goal. I’m starting to really appreciate that principle, especially as I do more things for fun, with complete detachment from whether or not I get what I want. I’m seeing through my own experience that through the combination of detachment and taking steps forward just for fun, I inevitably get what I want (or something even better in many cases). I can say with complete honesty that I care about getting what I want without caring about whether or not I get it.
Weird, right? But that’s exactly how I feel.
In the end, I don’t really have a point to make today, except to say that as I celebrate my birthday and I move into the next year of my life, I’m truly happy. By living in the moment, doing what feels best right now, and enjoying the journey, I am experiencing the most joyful life I can. And that makes everything worthwhile.
About the Author
Appio Hunter is an author, speaker, spiritual guide, and a guy dedicated to raising our collective EQ. He uses his seminars and workshops to facilitate conversations about authenticity, alignment, awareness, and the experience of community, connection, and joy. Appio is also a weekly columnist with The Good Men Project and co-host of the Real Men Feel Show along with his good friend Andy Grant.