Out Your Doubt
The past several weeks have been phenomenally busy for me… but in a good way. I have a number of projects in my pipeline that are in varying stages of development, and I’m seeing progress on every single one of them. The project I’m most excited about is one that hatched last week when I was having a brainstorming session with a very dear friend and collaborator. I was trying to figure out a truly unique service I could offer that could make a serious impact on people’s lives. After she started asking me some very direct, pointed questions about the work I’ve been doing I noticed a pattern.
I discovered that the most radical changes I’ve seen in my clients comes after I help them remove the energetic blindfolds that have kept them from seeing their greatest strengths. I noticed that in every situation, the massive shifts took place during conversations when my clients were expressing doubts about themselves and their abilities.
All of us experience doubt at some point in our lives. That’s part of our human experience. Unfortunately, when most people experience doubt, they hold onto it and they nurture it. Their doubt becomes so familiar it feels like a protective shell, and in the most extreme cases people wear their doubt like a badge of honor. That’s because doubt masks itself as intuition, and we think that it’s protecting us from doing something stupid. Have you ever heard the phrase, “It’s better to be safe than sorry?” Who do you think said it? An adventurer … or a doubter?
Doubt is insidious like that. It takes over our lives and it pretends to be something noble. The difference between doubt and intuition however, is that doubt is focused internally, whereas intuition guides us through events, circumstances, and opportunities. When our intuition speaks to us, we’re confident in our talents and our ability to make the right choices. We know that no matter what decision we make, or what path we take, we’ll end up in a better place. As contradictory as it may sound, we feel good about the bad feelings we get when a situation doesn’t feel right. That’s because the misgivings we feel are not directed at us, but at the event, circumstance, or opportunity.
Doubt, on the other hand, doesn’t guide us. Doubt targets our thoughts and belief in ourselves. It prompts that little voice in our heads to say things that cause us to hesitate, or to think we’re not worthy of something. In the long run, habitual doubt leads to feelings of self-loathing and depression. Ask yourself if any of these phrases sound familiar:
“I can’t do that.”
“There’s no way anyone will notice me.”
“Does she love me?”
This is one I heard a lot when I used to work in the travel industry: “I really wanted to go, but did you hear about what happened? I’m so glad I listened to my intuition and stayed home!” And yet in the next breath, that same person says, “My life is so miserable! I never get to do anything fun!”
Those are the voices of doubt. Those are the voices that supposedly keep us safe and warm, out of harm’s way. And yet, while we’re safe, warm and out of harm’s way, we simultaneously feel lonely, unloved, bored, and unhappy.
We’re adventurers at heart. That is our true essence, the core of who we are. We didn’t choose to experience this life because we wanted to live safe and sound. We chose this life because we wanted to feel the thrill of discovery, to have our hearts pound when something new or unexpected happens, and to feel the full range of emotions that are triggered when we live our adventures. That’s why I love the song I Lived by OneRepublic. The entire message is inspiring, but I’m especially moved by the words in the chorus:
I ~~~ I did it all!
I ~~~ I did it all!
I owned every second that this world could give
I saw so many places,
The things that I did
Yeah, with every broken bone,
I swear I lived.
Sadly, for far too many of us, doubt sneaks in and keeps us from living… and when that happens, we slowly die inside.
Don’t let that happen to you. Let go the doubt and choose to live.
There are many, many techniques and methods for getting rid of doubt, but what I discovered is that I have an uncanny ability to see through the illusions and false evidence others believe is real. As an empath, I can perceive the true essence of an individual or a group and speak directly to that essence. In my work, I frequently find myself creating the image people need to see of themselves and then handing that image to them – energetically and verbally. I create a safe space and I allow whoever chooses to be there to stay in that safe, sacred space until I know their doubt is gone.
I never realized that I was intuitively using my empathic gifts until my conversation last week. Empathy is at the core of everything I do – especially when it comes to energy work. That’s why I decided to officially introduce a new program into my repertoire called “Out Your Doubt.” The goal of Out Your Doubt is to help you see past the illusions created by self-defeating conversations and thoughts, to help you see the essence of your true self and your true strengths.
Know that no matter where we are in life, doubts can creep in and take up residence without our even noticing. Regardless of how recent or old those doubts are we can clear them out. Best of all, it can be done with clarity, simplicity, and love. Above all, love. And when we’re done, each of us can look back on our lives and say, “I lived.”
I’m so deeply grateful that I’m able to share this gift with you, and I’m grateful for every opportunity I have to share. Thank you for being on this journey with me, and for being my support.
Namaste my friends. I see you.
About the Author
Appio Hunter is an author, speaker, spiritual guide, and self-described champion for living joyously. He uses his seminars and workshops to facilitate conversations about authenticity, alignment, and the daily experience of community, connection, and joy. Appio is also a weekly columnist with The Good Men Project and co-host of the Real Men Feel Show along with his good friend Andy Grant.